9:43 pm - Tue, Jul 29, 2014
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Official Twitterbomb at Washington Post


I started tweeting yesterday and I’d like everyone to start tweeting with me at the Washington Post (@WashingtonPost) over their article (tw at link: ableism, violence, seclusion, abuse) “Coping with adult children’s autism, parents may face ‘least bad’ decisions.”

In addition to @WashingtonPost, we will be tweeting at:

Executive Editor Martin Baron: @PostBaron

the Health Section of the Post: @PostHealthSci

the Local section, where the article was published: @postlocal

the journalist who wrote the article’s professional account, Dan Morse: @morsedan

I wrote a post (tw at link, ableism, violence, seclusion, abuse), “Complicit Narratives,” concerning the extremely troublesome aspects of the article, which sympathizes more with abusers than the victims, if you need more information.

We will tweet today and tomorrow using the hashtag #WPComplicit

Here are example tweets I have done so far, without the hashtag:


Tip: add a period “.” before the @ so your followers can see the tweets!

If you have the spare time for even one tweet, please turn out.  There are a horrifying number of instances of autistic people locked in basements and cages lately.  The Washington Post story is the second instance this month.  When a major news outlet sympathizes with people who would be considered evil and criminal if they did the same thing to a non-disabled person, silence sends a message.  This needs to be plainly unacceptable.  The safe assumption is that hardly anyone will stand up for us us but us.  

6:49 pm
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Ableism, Using Pop-Culture References


Because that’s how I communicate, dammit!

Okay, so imagine a world where everyone you meet is like this:

In the episode, the crew, as it turns out, gets a fair trial because they are being judged by themselves.

Yeah, in this hypothetical world, you don’t get that.

Instead, your worth as a person is judged by your “contribution to society”.

Are you a top scientist? Great, you get to live.

Are you a CEO? Great, you get to live.

Are you in some way famous - and can turn that fame into money? Great, you get to live.

Are you none of these things? Are you a nice person who struggles to get by with a huge mortgage and a dead-end job?

You get erased from existence.

How many of you would pass this test? How many of you get to live?

"Well, gosh, Caroline, I’m sure glad I don’t live in that world," I hear you say.

Or, more likely, “That’s absurd! That’s some kind of terrible scfi dystopia that would never happen! Not to mention how impractical it would be!”

Except that’s the world I live in.

I get to “live” because my hope of holding down a well-paying job is good.

I get to “live” because I occupy the top 1% when it comes to verbal reasoning.

But I live in a world where, if I didn’t have that, my erasure from existence would be seen as entirely justified.

Where I have to justify my existence to almost everyone I meet.

It’s stressful and horrible and, yes, kind of a dystopian nightmare when you think about it.

But, hey, most people don’t live in this world with me, so yeah, it’s totally fine for you to keep on ignoring it. /sarcasm

Seriously, though, just do me a favour? Ask yourself if you’re worthy, if all of your friends and family are worthy, by these standards, before you start applying them to disabled people. Before you start dividing us up into the “good” and “bad” kind of disabled. Because that’s you playing Inquisitor and I don’t trust any individual to give me a fair trial.

5:09 pm - Mon, Jul 28, 2014
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I’m tweeting at the Washington Post…


for this article

see more on how to contact the Washington Post: http://iamthethunder.tumblr.com/post/93118043150/abuse-and-awful-washington-post-article

and this is why: http://k-pagination.tumblr.com/post/93034330509/complicit-narratives

They are @WashingtonPost

If you have some spare time today, joining in would be a good use of it.  When a major news outlet does something bad, responding in significant numbers sends a powerful message.  Silence makes it look like bigotry has no consequences.  If you can, please turn out.

12:16 pm
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This kind of thing makes me suspicious.  It could easily turn into an institution.  However, if it looks like L’Arche, rather than long-term incarceration, in practice and these women sincerely want to be there, it is a good thing that this provides the full range of options that would be available to nondisabled practitioners of their faith.

12:10 pm
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Complicit Narratives


Complicit Narratives

 tw: child abuse, ableism, abuse against autistic people, murder mention

“Coping with adult children’s autism, parents may face ‘least bad’ decisions,” an article for the Washington Post is headlined. It offers “reflections” on the case where two autistic twins were locked in a dank, barren basement. The headline says it all. “Least bad decisions” while locking kids in basements.

This justification - the justification to the abuse and neglect of autistic people - cannot occur any more. There cannot be anymore cries of things heard in the article:

"But it’s possible that, in their minds, this was the least bad way to deal with this,” Bucknam says.

And this, and the Washington Post’s article, just cement that, as Ari Ne’eman of the Autistic Self Advocacy Network writes, “there is no crime so depraved that the autism parent community will not defend it, if… committed by a parent against an autistic child.”

But they are still wrong, if they consider that the “least bad way.” What would be the worst choice? Murder? So locking them in a basement seems okay by comparison? The answer is still no, it is not okay.

We’re human. A lack of services does not translate to abuse or murder for thousands of other families who have people in those families with disability, significant or otherwise. I will not deny the inadequate services across the country, but as Julia Bascom (also of ASAN and the Loud Hands Project) writes, “don’t hold those conversations, those desperately needed conversations, in connection to crimes like these. When you do that, you hold us hostage. When you do that, you say “give us more funding—or the kid gets it!”

The time for those discussions is somewhere else, sometime else when we – the disabled – haven’t just been abused or murdered. The topic at hand is not more services, but on the fact that we are human and that alone should dignify respect and human rights. The topic at hand is that this cannot happen anymore. I know I will write more posts like this, because it will happen again, regardless of my and thousands of others’ insistence that it cannot. These types of statistics, where people with disabilities become crime numbers, need to hit zero, and we will not rest in our fight to get to that number.


The Washington Post is doing people with disabilities a disservice – more than that, it is complicit in constructing a narrative that allows our abuse and murder. Write to them Here to tell them that these narratives are not okay. And for anyone reading – as Julia Bascom wrote in the same post, “Please don’t inadvertently help build a narrative where hurting someone with a significant disability is ever, ever “understandable.”

11:48 am
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Abuse and Awful Washington Post Article

There was an abuse situation around Washington D.C. involving autistic adult brothers locked in a basement.  An article about it sympathizes with the parents more than the victims.  Send a letter to the editor with this link.  Visit their twitter account here.

11:56 am - Fri, Jul 25, 2014
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Being a narcissist and posting one of my columns again; I wish I could go back and remove the Laverne Cox analogy, because people have pointed out that that’s sort of apples and oranges, but other than that I hope it works well. TW for ableist slur.

12:51 am
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Next ASAN Atlanta Meeting


Next ASAN Atlanta Meeting


Wed. July 30 

4:00 pm


The Hirsch Academy
705 S. Candler St
Decatur, GA 30030

(not far past Agnes Scott College, one mile from Decatur MARTA stop)

Looking for:

Along with our returning members, anyone else who is Autistic (self-diagnosed or in process of self-diagnosing counts!) Allies are also welcome. No formal “advocacy training” is required to join.


Paige Mead
Chapter Leader
(404) 862-9125

(email preferred)

12:24 am - Thu, Jul 24, 2014
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I want you to take a gargantuan breath and then play those pedal notes like you’re a T-Rex having bad diarreah.
Actual thing I said to one of my trombone students today. (via lady-tromboss)
12:21 am
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I/DD in the Southeast: A New Writing Project


There seems to be a lack of things written about intellectual/developmental disabilities (frankly, all sorts of disabilities, but I need to start somewhere less broad than all disabilities) in the Southeast. I would like assist in filling the gap. One person cannot fix the entire gap, but I can fill a bit of it. 

I do not know how long (page-length) this project will be, nor how long it will take. It may take years (I am already writing so many things, oops). 

If you are developmentally disabled or have an intellectual disability and live in the Southeast, have lived in the Southeast for any extended period of time (I’d say at least more than a year), or were raised in the Southeast, I’d love to hear any comments, insights, and/or experiences you have had in the South. Not all your comments will make it into this project. I suspect that there will be far too many for me to include all of them.

While I am autistic, I would rather not write an entire essay-thing on being disabled in the Southeast based solely on my experiences; autism is but one disability and I have only lived in the state of Georgia (not even outside of the metropolitan Atlanta area, actually). 

At some point, I want to publish this (professionally). I don’t have to have your name, just the disability and your experiences. If you do reveal your name, it will be out there, so consider carefully. Also consider the implications of you are giving me something already written elsewhere that can be linked to you. 

You can email me at silverbrook.aka.silva@gmail.com. If you need another means of communication, please send me an ask. I’m awful on phones, but I can do my best, for instance.

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