Anger has a place in activism. It moves people to take on the challenges at hand. The cause of neurodiversity needs not inorganic voices but people who can hold a grudge and get things done. Anger inspires resistance to oppression. It ends talk and drives action.
Like anything else, there is a time and place for it. I recognize that my life has been hard. For me, these discussions are personal. They represent the future of the fledgeling identity to which I belong. They touch on the experiences I relive in nightmares. Anger comes easily to the surface which should sometimes be restrained. Even if you are a person with the societal privilege of being allistic or neurotypical, my anger is not your problem. If you have not, to my knowledge, specifically done something wrong, I will be decent to you. You did not choose to be what you are any more than I did. I have no more right to punish others for being born a certain way than you do.
Under these circumstances, I will have genuine discussions:
Under these circumstances, I will rebuff questions without condemning a curious person beyond mild reproach:
If you appear to troll, I will engage and be unpleasant.
I will generally unfollow people who: